"Banging Your Head Against a Red-Haired Brick Wall" by Blair Provence.

Yeah, the title drives me nuts, too. Also the first person pov. The character is likable enough but I had a hard time reading the story anyway.

I wonder if that would be a good theme. Point of view? Maybe I'll do a poll...

Of course, no aspect of fandom can ever be adequately explained to nonfans.

Although, I think most people are fannish about something, they just don't call it that. Fanfiction is hard to explain, period. Even to fans.