I'm not sure I do like that, or what is more to the point, I'm not sure I believe it. I guess it's supposed to be a sign of increasing intimacy except it isn't really because she has to pretend and he has to pretend and it all feels like a lot of work for very little reward.
That's interesting. Even in canon I can absolutely see them having these unspoken checks and balances between them. In fact, I find the bit about Scully and Mulder both pretending he doesn't sleep in the bed a very excellent bit of characterization all around. I think our disagreement on this issue makes an interesting case for how people see intimacy very differently. As I see it, in a strange way the pretending and the self-denial and all of that is what makes it so intimate. It's also what keeps them exhausted and apart, for now, but the thing is, they're putting in this effort. Their consideration for each other and their care in tending to their relationship is evidenced by how much work they're both putting into not fucking it up. They've been through so much, and they are pretty damaged (more so than in canon, I agree) and they're sensitive to each other (which means vulnerable to each other) in a way they're not sensitive to much anymore. So they're navigating their relationship acting on both cowardice and exceptional bravery, unable to tell one apart from the other because they're co-occurring conditions. I feel I understand their cowardice, and I admire their bravery.
why be jealous of an apartment she doesn't even want to be in? Because there's a tiny bit of her life that isn't entirely his?
It's a piece of her life that's not theirs. That's what my guess would be. It's a piece of her life that's antagonistic to what they are, who they are, what they do. And yeah, his jealousy makes him selfish. He's covetous of her in that way, he doesn't like the idea of Scully living a societally approved life. Big surprise there, considering the disdain Mulder seems to have for most of the conventions of society. But it's not just about him. It's perceptive and understanding of him to recognize the role Scully's apartment has come to play in her life. It's become a reminder of everything she's lost or failed to be. It "pushes her to measure up" but has no regard for who she actually is. I love that Mulder understands how she thinks, the ways she measures herself.
Plus I just think Scully is much more self-reliant than Khyber, and I guess by extension Mulder, does.
And again we seem to have opposite views. I see the KvsS7 Scully as being intensely, rigidly self-reliant - to the point where it's not healthy. What is it that makes you think she's not?
I do wish Khyber would have evened out their issues a bit though. Mulder seems peachy next to her. Mind you, I think it does seem compliant with canon that if Mulder and Scully were having sex all along, Scully would be left feeling far more vulnerable and drained than Mulder. Chalk it up to sexist double standards, their personal characters, or biology, but I just don't think sex is usually quite as complicated an issue for Mulder.
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That's interesting. Even in canon I can absolutely see them having these unspoken checks and balances between them. In fact, I find the bit about Scully and Mulder both pretending he doesn't sleep in the bed a very excellent bit of characterization all around. I think our disagreement on this issue makes an interesting case for how people see intimacy very differently. As I see it, in a strange way the pretending and the self-denial and all of that is what makes it so intimate. It's also what keeps them exhausted and apart, for now, but the thing is, they're putting in this effort. Their consideration for each other and their care in tending to their relationship is evidenced by how much work they're both putting into not fucking it up. They've been through so much, and they are pretty damaged (more so than in canon, I agree) and they're sensitive to each other (which means vulnerable to each other) in a way they're not sensitive to much anymore. So they're navigating their relationship acting on both cowardice and exceptional bravery, unable to tell one apart from the other because they're co-occurring conditions. I feel I understand their cowardice, and I admire their bravery.
why be jealous of an apartment she doesn't even want to be in? Because there's a tiny bit of her life that isn't entirely his?
It's a piece of her life that's not theirs. That's what my guess would be. It's a piece of her life that's antagonistic to what they are, who they are, what they do. And yeah, his jealousy makes him selfish. He's covetous of her in that way, he doesn't like the idea of Scully living a societally approved life. Big surprise there, considering the disdain Mulder seems to have for most of the conventions of society. But it's not just about him. It's perceptive and understanding of him to recognize the role Scully's apartment has come to play in her life. It's become a reminder of everything she's lost or failed to be. It "pushes her to measure up" but has no regard for who she actually is. I love that Mulder understands how she thinks, the ways she measures herself.
Plus I just think Scully is much more self-reliant than Khyber, and I guess by extension Mulder, does.
And again we seem to have opposite views. I see the KvsS7 Scully as being intensely, rigidly self-reliant - to the point where it's not healthy. What is it that makes you think she's not?
I do wish Khyber would have evened out their issues a bit though. Mulder seems peachy next to her. Mind you, I think it does seem compliant with canon that if Mulder and Scully were having sex all along, Scully would be left feeling far more vulnerable and drained than Mulder. Chalk it up to sexist double standards, their personal characters, or biology, but I just don't think sex is usually quite as complicated an issue for Mulder.