Yes, I suppose I am being a bit harsh on this Mulder, he probably doesn't deserve such accusations. they're equals and they had sex as equals; it isn't his obligation to always give her first consideration. I think I'm just touchy because Scully seems to have taken most of the hits in this universe. If Khyber had roughed up this Mulder's character the way he did this Scully's, I wouldn't be so hard on him, because I would recognize that he was dealing with just as much inner chaos as she is. But it seems like her relationship with Mulder has left her more vulnerable and depleted, while he seems to be better off than even canon Mulder. So it's hard for me not to essentially blame him. Yes, it was always her choice to put the limits on how much of herself she was going to give to the work, and to him, but the position she was put in, right from the beginning, made setting those limits and holding to them a very difficult thing.

Scully was originally put in this difficult, disadvantaged position by a bunch of male superiors, and she is held in that position by them and their expectations; then Mulder comes along and starts pulling her into difficult positions from the other side, like a tug-of-war, and even though none of what's done to her is really his fault, he can be rather unaware of Scully's difficulties sometimes - of how difficult it is for her to do the right thing in her position - and I find it difficult not to accuse him of negligence. Basically, the whole situation raises my feminist hackles a bit - whether that's justified or it isn't - and KvsS7 raises them more than the series does, because it puts Scully in an even more vulnerable position.